How Relationship Failure Leads to Success in Life
Your relationship not working out does not mean that your complete future is at stake! The road from failure to success may be full of bumps, but you learn as you go – and with every failure you grow and eventually develop a completely different – and hopefully more positive – mindset! So do not give up on love – every experience you have will teach you more about yourself and about what works for you … and this will inevitably lead to your own personal success.
This article will look at how a rejection in a romantic relationship can still lead to personal success. First of all, it is important to remember that you can be successful even without being in a relationship. The important aspect here is whether you are happy and content with yourself while still being single.
Feelings of sadness and loneliness due to a failed relationship are temporary, but self-worth is more permanent. If you have confidence about who you are as an individual, everything else will fall into place, simply by you being and looking your best – and this will happen completely independent of whether you are or are not involved in a relationship.
Personal Success
Your personal success should not and cannot ever be dependent on you having a partner. Of course, it is wonderful to have a partner, and it is easy to fall in love, but not as easy to be in a relationship… and it is even harder to get over one and move on with life, once you have realized that this partner is not the right one. Some people easily get over a relationship and decide to move on, but unfortunately, those are the minority. Most people stay in a relationship, may it be good or bad, often just because they are afraid of not finding another partner. They keep their relationship going, because they do not want to admit that the romantic interest has faded or that they have grown apart.
The most important thing to realize though, is, that if you yourself are not happy, your partner is not going to make you happy either. If you are unhappy, it is up to you to fix it! No one else will fix it for you, because in regards to relationships, we simply cannot know beforehand what type of person would be ‘good enough’ for us – we can only try and find out.
Fact is, all relationships are flawed and reflect a certain amount of success and failure. The question is – should your relationship not turn out to be what you had hoped for – how much of a compromise, or what degree of failure, are you willing to live with? You can decide on a ‘complete failure’ by possibly ending the relationship, or you can make it a ‘partial failure’ by keeping it going – even though you are utterly unhappy. Again, the important factor here is to realize that another person cannot ever truly satisfy your needs – true happiness can only be found within yourself.
When wanting to succeed in finding your own happiness it is essential to honestly look at the bigger picture – into basically every aspect of your life – and start dealing with your personal disappointments and struggles. Don’t stay stuck in the misery of contentment. Your personal success is going to happen by taking steps towards that goal and getting over any obstacles that may get in your way. You will never succeed if you stay stuck on what is happening to you right now, and the one thing that you must never do is give up.
When someone tells me, “I’ll never get over him/her,” I always tell them that that’s the wrong attitude, and that they need to have the right mindset in order to get where they want to go. Some people have long realized their need for breaking up an unhappy relationship, and yet they somehow believe that things can get better for them only if they stay in it. But feelings of guilt, or fear of starting another relationship, will never improve the current situation. So, if you are in an unhappy relationship and have long lost that spark for your partner, then it might be time to move on.
Create your own happiness and success! And, actually, in order to do that, it takes you being unhappy first – because otherwise you will not be persistent in finding what truly does make you happy! Too often, we get stuck in the middle of the drama of our own lives, and we don’t allow ourselves to be happy, because of our personal fears or insecurities. But we can succeed and find true joy when being persistent.
How Relationship Failure Leads to Success in Life
Failure in a relationship is sometimes inevitable. It is just how the ball bounces. But, just like any other form of failure, this can lead up to a better opportunity later. When you go through a breakup, it is devastating as it happens. It feels like you are in a hole with no way out – and I even went through a phase where I felt like giving up on my life. Of course, that is the time when your life is at its lowest point, and there are difficult times ahead. The only way to get over this phase mentally is by accepting it as a part of your life journey and moving on, one day at a time.
Going through a breakup or having a relationship fail is actually one of the greatest learning opportunities! It may be far from easy, but you can do it – just like anything else in life – by taking the right steps to get over that hurdle. Here are a few tips I have collected from my own experience on how you can deal with relationship failure so that you still come out stronger:
Let go of all baggage regarding the relationship. Do not worry about what others think about you, because the moment you do – and the moment you start feeling bad about yourself and dwell on self-pity – is the moment you are already damaging yourself.
1) Outline
In the past, I also had difficulty dealing with relationship failure, and I wish I had known then what I know now. It is not easy to move on after someone walks away from you, but in the end, that can lead you to becoming a better person. It does not matter if it is the first or the hundredth time; it is all part of one’s life experience and growth. Think about this: every situation is an opportunity for learning and growth! The tragedy of relationship failure is that we have wasted so much of our lives on people who are not worthy of us, rather than focusing on ourselves.
As a result of relationship failure, you will learn things about yourself that you may not have known before. You may learn something unexpected and realize that someone who seemed to be your perfect match was really in it for the wrong reasons. When you encounter such a situation, it is almost always too late to save the relationship, and you can only move on after finally letting go of all the baggage regarding that person and relationship.
2) Transition
As you move on after a relationship failed, it is essential to ensure that you do not fall into the same trap again. For example, some people get into the bad habit of looking for the same kind of person, i.e. the next “perfect” partner, right away. It is something of which I too was guilty, and of course, it did not work out.
3) Body
The first thing I recommend you do is to let go of all the negative things surrounding you and focus on yourself … not to be selfish, but to focus on improving yourself. While you are single, spend time focusing on your career, education, finances, sports, or any other areas that need improvement. Then, when you have a new partner, take some time off from these things, in order to pursue your new relationship.
So, after letting go of all your baggage and negativity, give yourself some time to start anew. Take some time to reflect on past mistakes and things you can do to avoid repeating them in the future. Do not think about it too much, but do take time to reflect.
To become a better person, you need to surround yourself with positive people, who will support your goals rather than discourage you from pursuing them. It is also essential to develop the right attitudes and beliefs, because your thoughts form your reality.
Conclusion
Do not feel bad about yourself when a relationship failed, because that will only worsen the problem. Fact is, life does not always go according to plan… but all experiences are an important integral part of the process to serve your personal success and growth.
